Get to know you questions: 100 for friends, dates and teams

Getting to know someone is easier with the right questions. Here are 100, from quick and light to the ones that start a real conversation.

Quick get to know you questions

1. Where did you grow up?

2. What do you do for work, and do you like it?

3. What’s your favourite food?

4. Morning person or night owl?

5. What’s your favourite season?

6. Do you have any pets?

7. What’s the last book you read?

8. What’s your favourite way to travel?

9. What’s your go-to coffee or tea order?

10. What’s the best film you saw this year?

11. Do you play any sports?

12. What kind of music do you listen to most?

13. What’s your favourite app?

14. What’s your dream holiday?

15. Are you a cook-at-home or order-in person?

16. What’s your favourite festival?

17. Which city would you love to live in?

18. What’s one thing you can’t start your day without?

19. What’s your hidden talent?

20. What’s your favourite word?

This or that

1. Tea or coffee?

2. Mountains or beaches?

3. Books or films?

4. Cats or dogs?

5. Sweet or spicy?

6. City or countryside?

7. Texting or calling?

8. Early or fashionably late?

9. Plan everything or go with the flow?

10. Big parties or small dinners?

11. Summer or winter?

12. Netflix or going out?

13. Window seat or aisle?

14. Gym or yoga?

15. Pizza or biryani?

Fun get to know you questions

1. What’s the best thing you’ve bought under ₹500 (or $10)?

2. What’s your weirdest habit?

3. What’s something you’re irrationally scared of?

4. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve done?

5. What’s a skill you’d brag about?

6. What’s your favourite meme right now?

7. What would you do on a free Tuesday?

8. What’s the funniest thing that happened to you this year?

9. Which celebrity have you been told you look like?

10. What’s a show you’ve watched more than twice?

11. What’s your most-played song?

12. If you opened a café, what would it be called?

13. What’s the strangest food combo you love?

14. What’s your favourite smell?

15. What would your friends say you’re famous for?

Deeper get to know you questions

1. What are you passionate about?

2. What’s something that changed your life?

3. What does success mean to you?

4. What’s a value you won’t compromise on?

5. Who do you look up to?

6. What’s a challenge you’re proud of getting through?

7. What’s something you want to do before you turn 40?

8. How do you recharge?

9. What makes you feel understood?

10. What’s a belief you held strongly that changed?

11. What are you learning about yourself lately?

12. What’s your love language?

13. What do you want more of in your life?

14. What’s the kindest thing someone has done for you?

15. What do you hope people feel after spending time with you?

Get to know you questions for groups and teams

1. What’s one thing nobody here knows about you?

2. What’s your favourite way to celebrate a win?

3. What’s a skill you could teach this group?

4. What was your first job?

5. What’s a book, podcast or show you’d recommend to everyone here?

6. What’s your ideal team lunch?

7. How do you like to work: music on, or silence?

8. What’s the best trip you’ve taken with friends?

9. Which three words would your friends use for you?

10. What’s a goal you have for this year?

11. What’s the best concert, match or event you’ve been to?

12. What’s your favourite local spot?

13. What’s something you’re looking forward to?

14. If you could swap lives with anyone here for a day, who?

15. What’s a fun fact about your hometown?

Get to know you questions for roommates

1. Are you an early riser or a late sleeper?

2. How do you feel about guests coming over?

3. Clean as you go or one big clean on weekends?

4. How do you like to split groceries?

5. Music out loud or headphones at home?

6. What’s your idea of a good night in?

7. Anything you’re allergic to or can’t stand?

8. How do you like to handle disagreements?

9. Shared dinners sometimes, or keep it separate?

10. What’s one house rule that matters to you?

Tips

• Mix light and deep. Three quick ones earn you one deeper one.

• Answer your own questions too. It feels like a chat, not an interview.

• Listen for the follow-up. The best next question is usually hidden in their answer.

Find your plan on 8club

• Find something to do. Search Hotspots happening near you this week.

• Check the guest list. Every Hotspot shows who’s going, and people you know show up first, so you can see if your friends are in before you join.

• Follow hosts you like. You’ll hear the moment their next Hotspot goes live.

• Share your profile. Send your 8club profile so new friends can follow you.

• Show where you go out. Your profile has a map of the places you’ve been, from Hotspots you attend and places you add.

Quick answers

What are good questions to get to know someone?

Start light (“What’s your favourite way to spend a weekend?”), then go deeper once you’re both comfortable (“What are you passionate about?”).

How many get to know you questions should you ask?

A handful is enough. Follow up on the answers instead of running through a list.